Break up like adults – How to tell your partner you are no longer interested in them?
Are you in a relationship that isn\’t working as it should or has your heart found love in someone else? Breaking up is never pleasant, but how do you ease the pain?
Break up like adults – How to tell your partner you are no longer interested in them?
Break up over the phone or gradually refuse and wait for your friend to run out of patience? It may seem that only immature individuals or young people try to end relationships this way, but this is far from the case. Many people can\’t find the courage, are afraid to tell the truth, or simply out of simple regret can\’t end a relationship directly with someone they have been in a relationship with for a long time. But if you know you want to break up, you need to do it as soon as possible. It\’s the only way to ease the other person\’s pain, or to ease your own conscience.
Partnership counselling?
You may be advised by others to go to counselling, but this only makes sense if both partners want to make an effort to keep the relationship going. Do you really want to keep your relationship or are you determined to leave? Make this clear within yourself and really give yourself time. Think, go out or conversely be alone and think about what you are about to do. If you are 100% sure you want to break up, do it as soon as possible. In a suitable place, of course, and prepare your speech in advance. What do you want to talk about? But don\’t forget that your partner deserves to know the reasons why you want to break up. And you should be as honest as possible. That\’s the way you want it, too.
What to talk about and what not to talk about?
But be careful about going into too much detail – for example, if you\’re already in a new relationship, the details of how it all started or why can hurt your partner a lot. In this case, try to be sensitive. However, at least acknowledge the reason why this happened, at least in passing.
Try to speak clearly and not get your partner\’s hopes up for the future. Don\’t keep the door open in this case, glued relationships usually don\’t have much chance of success anyway. For example, never break up over the phone or through text messages. A quiet environment is best. No one should disturb you and no one should interfere in your conversation. If you have children, leave them with grandma and work things out just the two of you.